SINGLE IN THE CITY: Grooming affection

>I used to cling to the idea that a great partner – one with no flaws will come and sweep me off my feet, on first encounter. But that notion seems to be far-fetched and I learnt to push it under the rug lest it led me to a life of constant illusion.

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Habari Zinazoendana

10 years ago

TheCitizen

20 Sep

SINGLE IN THE CITY: We go through different phases

>Have you ever wondered why men rarely marry the women they date for years?  You date a guy all the way through campus, see him through the roughest times of his life and stick with him when the world is against him then he suddenly dumps you only to marry a girl he just met 3 months ago?

 

9 years ago

TheCitizen

19 Sep

SINGLE IN THE CITY: Need to appreciate our own culture

It’s like you’ve lost your favourite jewellery. Sofa cushions are turned inside out; dusty corners of the room are massaged for the clue that will lead you to that glint of silver. Spotting the place where the ‘Afropolitan’ girl is comfortable, where the ‘Afropolitan’ male is content in our cities is times like finding that missing jewel.

 

10 years ago

TheCitizen

20 Dec

SINGLE IN THE CITY: I Really Don’t Care

>I had never given much thought to the art of not caring until a few months ago when my mother awakened the concept in me.

 

11 years ago

TheCitizen

25 Jan

SINGLE IN THE CITY: Settling for good enough

>Two days after a devastating breakup, I had lunch with the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, the person who probably knows more about the science of romance and long-term love than anyone else on the planet. Our meeting wasn’t a ploy for tips on how to win him back but to discuss her latest study.

 

10 years ago

TheCitizen

16 May

SINGLE IN THE CITY: Dancing in the dark

>Musing with the sounds of slow precise percussions, a lazy voice croons belying the fact that it’s on the exact strata of chord and rhythm; yeah am listening to ‘Diana Krall. Have you ever caught doubt in between your fingers and squashed it like a mosquito?

 

11 years ago

TheCitizen

03 May

SINGLE IN THE CITY: Is being ‘second wife’ unnerving?

>Life doesn’t always pan out the way we hope it would. From our career goals, up to the more personal relationship issues, everything seems to head downhill. I’ve always been a compassionate woman, I’m known to many as the kindest lady one can be, for this, I find myself vulnerable and a little naive.

 

10 years ago

TheCitizen

17 Jan

SINGLE IN THE CITY: Let’s take a look at our skipped rituals

>When I was younger I had a huge crush on Enrique Iglesias, I believed we were soul mates and we would end up together all because the song ‘Hero’ reflected my ideal virtues of being ‘in love.’

 

9 years ago

TheCitizen

03 Oct

SINGLE IN THE CITY: You need to reclaim your inner peace

Before the city rubs its rough on you, before you balk at the mounting chores that ought to be done, rush out of the house to brace the traffic one more time. Listen to the rasp of your voice, the vulnerable of your eyes opening up to the view of a new day. With the hazy gaze that reveals the person who can enjoy the sultry of sleep, the cocoon of dreams.

 

10 years ago

TheCitizen

06 Jul

SINGLE IN THE CITY: We need to raise our emotional IQ

>The ‘gunia’ table tops to my left are covered with tomatoes and mangoes, an assortment of watermelons and carrots with green peppers line the right side of the ‘genge’. I’ve come by to get some fruit. It’s around 7pm in this dimly lit stall and the owner is speaking to his male buddy as I pick a mango.

 

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